Is it guess work? Luck or a case of faking it till you make it? People on social media seem to look like they've got the "adult life" sorted, you see pictures and posts of people on FaceBook and Instagram purchasing their first flat, being promoted, doing their taxes and having enough money to be comfortable in life by their mid twenties to early thirties.
So how do they get to that point? Where are the pictures of the hardships of not making rent, being unemployed and dealing with stress of relationships. You don't see that on social media as much as the fun side of life people always portray.
I believe social media is causing many people to have false pretences about how life works once you "flee the nest and make it on your own"
. You see programmes like "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" where Kylie Jenner who is born in the same year as me (1997) buying a mansion before she is 18 and moving out on the day of her 18th birthday. That to me is something thats a mere twinkle in the eye of realistic outcomes for me. I can barely afford to move out of my family home and so have to wait another year to do so comfortably. Is it right that the rich show off their early independence to the not so rich kids who still have curfews? Is it right that we only show our successes on social media and not the flaws and downsides to independence.
So how do they get to that point? Where are the pictures of the hardships of not making rent, being unemployed and dealing with stress of relationships. You don't see that on social media as much as the fun side of life people always portray.
I do not own this picture.
I believe social media is causing many people to have false pretences about how life works once you "flee the nest and make it on your own"
. You see programmes like "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" where Kylie Jenner who is born in the same year as me (1997) buying a mansion before she is 18 and moving out on the day of her 18th birthday. That to me is something thats a mere twinkle in the eye of realistic outcomes for me. I can barely afford to move out of my family home and so have to wait another year to do so comfortably. Is it right that the rich show off their early independence to the not so rich kids who still have curfews? Is it right that we only show our successes on social media and not the flaws and downsides to independence.
Unlike some of my friends I didn't go to university (see why here) and so I will be learning how to sort out taxes and bills in different ways, no student grants or housing deals for me.
I was discussing this with my brother, who did go to University and has just got his own flat in London. He expressed the point that he is just learning as he goes along and through friends who are ahead of the game, but he did say that he didn't realise how much money goes towards having a place of your own. Bills, fees, taxes take over your life and before you know it, you're back to asking your parents for extra cash which just adds to the stress of dealing with a student loan at the same time.
But what if we did get taught how to "adult" at school? Would we be any the wiser at putting our classroom tricks to the test in real life? Can it be examined? How can one persons view on how to "adult correctly" be correct for a whole population of young people, it simply can't work. So are we all doomed to learn the hard way on how to do taxes and pay bills and "adult correctly" etc.
I am hoping my travelling will help to prepare me for the world I wish to be part of next year, I've learnt how to save and budget effectively through this experience and so hope I know what I am doing. However, even if I do not know what I am doing and make a fool of ones self, then I still have my family to look after me. So I guess there isn't much to be afraid about going in the real world. I just hope I am as ready as I believe I am.
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